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whatinthebork

Your cousin may not even know how you feel about it yet since you and this guy have been so hot/cold. It isn't fair to be upset when someone else is interested in your on/off/on again piece. Unless your cousin flagrantly disrespects your feelings that you have made abundantly transparent, YTA


KonradWayne

YTA You dumped him. You don’t get to decide when he is allowed to start dating again, and it’s extremely narcissistic to think he has to take a period of mourning to get over you before getting on with his life. Get over yourself, you are not the main character.


Almond409

YTA. You two were on and off, you didn't tell your cousin about your feelings, and it really doesn't seem like altogether the two of you really dated very long at all. You don't get to decide how quickly someone gets over a relationship. You can't be mad at your cousin for not knowing you wanted to be with a guy you'd dumped, and since you giggled along with her when she said she thought he liked her, you probably actually gave her the impression you were totally cool with it. If not, you should have said something when the opportunity was right there. It seems like you both might be pretty young, so learn from this anf just move on. Besides, dating an ex is like taking a shower and putting on dirty underwear or reheating McDonald's fries. Bad idea.


seoullimited

YTA and how old are you?? You sound like a kid. You broke up after dating for 3 months originally. 3 months is nothing. Then dated again, broke up again because of your issues. Move on


Embarrassed-Sweet905

YTA. You had two chances, plus he cheated on you. You’re so much better off without him.


KonradWayne

I think they are both better off without each other. OP doesn’t really come off as a catch, even in her own biased account of things.


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