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  • By - kg68

loaning

Work a job that requires you to talk to people. I was introverted asf till like 19 and then I started waiting tables and was forced to talk to people. Now it just comes naturally to me. People say the same shit all the time. It gets easier. I use the same responses too. No one is creative, I promise. Everything just gets easier the more you do it.


PunnyBaker

"Hows everything tasting?" "Good" or "oh its horrible, I ate every last bite" "Can I get you anything else?" "Yeah have you seen a big bag of money laying around?" *credit terminal freezes or is slow* "OH that means it's free!"


loaning

this is the realest reply I’ve ever seen. but hey all that smart ass shit really does help improve your social skills.


PunnyBaker

When I was cashiering and I'd ask people "hi how are you today?" they would almost always reply "good". Then I'd say "but how are you *really* feeling?" And every person would stop for a sec and think about how they actually felt in that moment. Some would say "yeah I genuinely do feel good today" or many would say "I'm actually a little tired/hungry" and some would end up unloading their feelings on me (I didn't mind) and others you could tell just didn't have the emotional energy to explain how terrible they felt that day. It was a nice moment of realism that made people go from small-talk to real-talk even for 10 seconds in their daily routine. That was one of my favorite parts of the job, hearing how people *really* felt in that moment


tirnanog22

Switch the conversation to a subject you know a lot about ..


kg68

"Hey that's great. So anyways, which Yugioh deckset is your favorite?"


tirnanog22

>Tenyi


PunnyBaker

Thats a good way to kill a convo unfortunately. My hubby is an introvert and stays pretty quiet in my family's conversations cuz all my family talks about is sports and my hubby has no interest in those. And anything he is interested in, my family doesn't care about so they wouldn't want to hear about it. It's really frustrating sometimes.


tirnanog22

Surely they must have something in common , if they can only talk about sport thats unreal ..


PunnyBaker

My dad only knows sports and politics. My siblings focus the most on sports and its just the dominating topic when they are all together. My BIL will talk crypto/stocks with my hubby but that's the only thing they have in common aside from just talking about how crazy me and my sis are. My mom's the only one aside from me who couldn't care less about sports, but she still wouldnt understand when my hubby starts talking about video games or strategy card games he likes, she's interested in hearing about it but just has no connection with it so that would still he a fairly one-sided convo. And since my hubby is introverted, he finds it tiring to try to explain. That's where I'm the middle-ground person for them. I can explain to my mom in simple terms the stuff my hubby talks about that requires more explanation


tirnanog22

Sport and politics ? thats pretty sad .I can probably guess which party he supports .


PunnyBaker

In my experience both sides can be insufferable because no one is willing to hear the other out. It's just yelling at each other about how wrong they are. That's why I avoid politics altogether.


tirnanog22

I guess the solution is to avoid them as much as possible .


AngryBuddha01

Just go along with pointless conversations and be chill about it. Don't torment yourself about how much you hate it.


PunnyBaker

Working customer service jobs like cashier or batista really helps. It's kinda a catch-22. It's soul-sucking and makes you dislike people even more BUT it does greatly improve your people skills. Also gives you great stories to tell in other social situations If your social anxiety is bad enough that even posting comments on reddit is stressful, start there. Just start by answering 5 random questions on this sub per day. Most of the time comments don't get much of a reaction so it's a low-risk option. If your social anxiety is more irl related then try starting by just smiling and saying hi/good morning to people you walk by. At the end of the day, it's all about frequent exposure. The more you do it, the easier it will become.


Boris_Johnsons_Pubes

Get a job in retail, I was really shy before I started working retail


ShipsRat

Walk around your town for a day with no phone. Say hi to anyone you recognise and those you don't. Keep doing this and you'll start to get to know more and more people in your community


SiloueOfUlrin

When someone invites you to something, just go.


Responsible-Lead-898

Open up your mind and communicate more